I remember it like it was three days ago when I was on this very same classroom sits you sit on today. I attended the Unique Summer School during my summer breaks, and the lesson I learned has shaped my life in so many ways. Standing at the other end of this time-line, I guess it’s only right I tell you what I wish I was told/knew when I was within this school’s walls.
But first a back story: I don’t believe in superheroes although I’d watch way too many series and movies on them. I believe we get to be our heroes, and how do we become heroes? By doing the best we can, with what we have even when life throws us a curve. But in most cases, we buy into the fear, and then what do we do? We convince ourselves “that we have no choice” and the best we can do is to buy into the conventional or mean stream ideology even when we know it's wrong and unethical at every level one can use to measure.
I say this not to shame anyone; I say this because I feel for the people who act in these ways. I wonder, why would someone choose to live a life like this? But again maybe they believe that they have no better option or perhaps this is all they have seen growing up, and they lack the knowledge that there is another way, a better way. In general, maybe this was the best they thought they could with what they have been given/dealt with or the surest way to get by.
Psychologists call this phenomenon the “kidnapping of one’s mind.” Hence, they prevent themselves from living the life they want, because they believe that going with the conventional flow will help them not go under; after all, better is always preferred to good. The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way.
Back to my advice, ask yourself, this question, where am I getting things wrong? And how can I get the life I want. So I encourage you to be true to yourself. How do I do that, you may ask?
- Self evaluate: where am I holding myself back, this means, being honest with yourself in everything
- Pay attention to your gut because our gut has over 200 million neurons; that’s why some people call it our second brain.
- Follow your dream and remember, that perfectionism is the enemy of progress and clarity comes from engagement so, get into the arena.
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